Be Grateful for Your Girlfriends

Check out my latest article talking about the importance of female friendships, featured on ‘She Is Fierce!’.

It often takes unforeseen bumps in the road of life that require us to have friends to lean on, to become aware that we haven’t been watering our garden of friendship.

Read more here:  Be Grateful for Your Girlfriends

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Worthy Woman

My complexion is not perfect, my teeth are not gleaming white; my hair is bottled blonde, but I can rock out to the Beatles, morning noon & night.

My eyes squint when I smile, my nose is larger than I’d like, and some may say I’m skinny fat, but I can make you laugh from dark till morning light.

My belly is scarred with stretch marks, and a bit of saggy skin, but I have two beautiful children whom I carried from within.

No one here is perfect, on this planet Earth, and once we all accept this, we will begin to see our worth.

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It’s Ok

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When I sit down to write my blog posts, I look deep inside myself to either offer inspiration or a story with a life lesson. I realized today as I tried my best to look deep inside to find something of worth to share, that there are times when I am the one in need of inspiration.

You can call it writer’s block, or call it too many thoughts to find one to draw out and focus on, or perhaps it is simply my mind telling me that today instead of being the one with wisdom to share, maybe it’s time to stop and look to others to answer questions that brew deep within.

I am slowly learning that it’s OK not to have it together all the time. It’s OK to be the one to reach out and ask for guidance. What a small world it would be if we could easily find all of the answers on our own, without the help of those around us.

What I want for myself and my readers is to allow time to reflect on the information we need and find strength in knowing that this is why we have each other. It is OK to not have all of the answers all of the time. It is OK to ask for help when we need it, and lastly, it’s OK to not always be OK.

Reaching the top of your mountain

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I spend a lot of time reading and searching out inspiring quotes on a daily basis. Today I read one that I wanted to share with all of you.

“The man on top of the mountain didn’t fall there.”
Vince Lombardi

There are successful people around us everywhere. They make it look so easy; it must just come natural to them, right? They must have good luck, or know the right people… wrong.  All we are seeing are the fruits of their success. We are not seeing the actual sweat, tears and hard work they put in daily to achieve their results. We don’t hear their frustration when they have days they want to quit and give up.

Social media can often give us the impression that everyone’s lives are perfect and flawless. It gives us the perception that people who reach their successes do it effortlessly. What we must remember is that we are only giving the world the perception we WANT it to see. How many times have you taken at least 10 selfies before posting it to your Instagram feed to ensure your look is as perfect as you can get it? The same goes for the highly successful. Even the most flawless looking high achievers have bad days. We forget this because we put ourselves in a different category as we are only seeing the best of them online. We often dehumanize these people; which leads to the mindset that we are not capable of achieving our own great results.

You have the option in life to choose to create and reach your goals, IF you are willing to put the work in to get them, no matter how big or small your goal may be.

What are your goals? Have you set out a plan to achieve them? Are they SMART goals, (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Timely)?

Remember these wise words from Confucius:

It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop.

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If you refuse to give up, you cannot fail

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If you need a little inspiration in your day, this video is a must watch! I was teary through the entire 3:14 min.

What an excellent reminder that even when it seems difficult to make sense of any troubles or bumps in the road we may encounter, we have the strength within ourselves to carry on. In order to live your life fully, it is vital to always see the light in midst of the darkness. What we may see as a failed opportunity could be setting us up for a much bigger success.

Have a fabulous Friday!

Feeling down? It’s time to turn that frown upside down!

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It’s time to start living gratefully.

There are many times in life when it seems as though the negatives outweigh the positives. It can be difficult at times to see the glass as half full when we are so focused on it being half empty. Between endless bill payments, household chores and maintenance; at least 8 hours a day being spent in the workplace, kids that aren’t listening, and daunting daily errands, it leaves very little space in our minds to see the good things around us on a daily basis. What if you had the power within you to change all that?

Here’s the good news, you DO have that power! We all do. It’s in your mind. We tend to underestimate the power that we hold within ourselves. The key to happiness and positivity is literally up to you. What you see is actually what you get. If you are only focused on the negative aspects of your life, you will only see and attract more negativity.

I very recently was feeling overwhelmed with negativity and anxiety. This had been going on for months. I was finding it difficult to breathe at times as I felt so overwhelmed by my thoughts. I was only focusing on what I was not happy with in my life which was causing me to be in a constant state of stress. I am and have always been a happy go lucky, upbeat person who thrives with energy and positivity. About eight months ago I felt the shift begin to happen. The larger part of my thoughts and conversations with friends and family were starting to be riffed with the things I was not happy about instead of sharing what I was happy about. I was only sharing my woes instead of my joys. I forgot that even though I was not happy in all areas of my life, there was still so much to be grateful for.

Not long ago, I started reading about vision boards and gratitude journals, and honestly, I didn’t see it as something that had a lot of worth to me. I was wrong.

I was rummaging through an old Rubbermaid tub that had a bunch of my old scrapbooking supplies and photograph’s and came across an empty journal. I decided then and there that I would use it as a gratitude journal. Tens of thousands of extremely successful leaders are huge advocates of using these methods to help achieve success and a healthy and positive mindset.

I have been taking 10 minutes every night at bed time to reflect on 5 things that I am grateful for. I have not yet had any trouble coming up with something new each day. I also started to post one picture a day on Instagram that I am grateful for to help keep me accountable and in hopes that I might inspire some of my followers to do the same.

In the last week, I have had a new lead for my social media tutoring business and a new and exciting online writing opportunity for a women’s based website.

I am not suggesting that thinking positively and counting your blessings daily will mean that there will no longer be things in life that you are not 100% happy with; what I am saying is that the shift in focus will allow you the clarity to put your energy where you need it so that more good things will come, and when they do, you will recognize them.

If you’d like to join me on my gratitude journey, follow along on Instagram @shanniem5

May your cup runneth over.

Get out of your own way

The older I get the more I realize that life doesn’t slow down and wait for us to catch up with it. It just keeps going on.

Each moment that passes could be an opportunity that is missed if we choose to wait instead of taking action. I decided that I did not want to be one of those people who spent my life waiting instead of acting.

I’ve recently started a business. For the last seven years, I have worked in an office that helps people who are starting businesses. Every day I see these talented men, women and youth come in and out, full of excitement, ideas and a bit of fear, as they start in a new venture in their lives.

Then one day I thought, why not me?

I’m relatively young still, I have a job that I love, but I have always had this yearning to do more. To do something that was my own that I could be proud of. So this past December I created, On the Line Communications.

You know how your parents and grandparents are always asking for help checking their email, or wanting someone to help them use social media sites like Facebook and Twitter? I created a service that provides one on one tutoring for seniors and baby boomers to show them how to use social media to stay connected with their loved ones and their interests from the comfort of their own home.

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I took everyday things that I love; people, social media, talking and teaching, and have turned it in to what I hope will be a successful and thriving business in the future.

Nothing is for sure in this life, but what we can be sure of is ourselves. Give yourself permission to move in the direction of your dreams whatever they may be. You are the only one standing in your own way.

The first step toward success is taken when you refuse to be a captive of the environment in which you first find yourself.

Mark Caine

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